Don’t look, we are changing.

Change is the time for changeonly constant’ – sounds clichéd, right? Overuse may have robbed it of its aura  but the underlying truth remains powerful as ever. Change can change you!

Despite hundreds of aphorisms & quotes, thousands of books and ever increasing number of conferences & courses on change, has anything really changed?books

All of us continue to live our lives as if nothing ever is going to change. Who are we fooling? Let’s face it. We  abhor change. It pushes us out of our comfort zone and hey! Who likes it? Hence we are most often caught totally unawares & unprepared for it.

What could be the reason for this?

In my (not so divine) opinion our positive-change bias is one major cause. Simply put-  when things change for the better we hardly notice. We take the good for granted,  This dulls & lulls us.

However  when suddenly a negative change happens we get all rustled. As if the positive change was well deserved but we surely don’t deserve a negative one. Fate has cheated us when it sent a negative change  our way.life changes

In short it is the ‘changes’ job to keep us happy and content. Always.

Come to think of it. it can be extrapolated that the very existence of God can be attributed to change.

Imagine a world where nothing changed at all; everything remained as it was. Forever. No old age, no illnesses, no bankruptcies, no famines, no floods, no earthquakes & not even death. Would we believe in a God then?

Another interesting fact (which probably will contradict everything I’ve said till now), if there is anything at all common to all religions, it is the belief that God is immutable. He will not grow old, His attributes will remain the same & nothing about Him will ever change. For eternity & beyond.

In other words God is the very anti-thesis of change

What an interesting paradox; There would be no belief in God if there were no change and yet that God himself shall never change.

I hope I have managed to tie you up in knots.

So is there a way out of our inertia. Can we still reconcile with change (better than be caught unawares) despite a deep seated aversion for it?

The most interesting way out is to proactively create change. Resist the status quo. Welcome change! Be happy to see a diversion in the usual road you take, both figuratively and literally. Take that different route to the office, eat at the ramshackle rundown place you always ignored, smile at that fella playing politics in your office, shave the other cheek first. In short do every small thing a little differently. Take that chance, believe that doubt, listen to that small voice and you’ll be surprised to see yourself  feel more alive.  And nothing will take you by surprise anymore.

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15 comments

  1. Change and death are the the only two truths of life. As you have rightly quoted – change is constant. Though we have heard this umpteen number of times and probably experienced it as many times, the human mind still refuses to accept it, especially when the going gets good.
    It is then, that the ego comes in and we attribute the change to OUR efforts, but, on the contrary, when the going gets tough, it is placed as God’s will, and then change is prayed for.
    We forget the age old saying – If bad times don’t last, then neither do good times.
    Hence, acknowledging the Supreme Being in good times and working towards making the change last, rather than enjoying it without gratitude – is not living in acceptance with the fact of life , that change is inevitable.
    Sanjay, you have truly explained the point in very simple manner.

  2. Thought provoking post and I totally enjoyed reading it. Maybe it is because I am a Gemini that I always resist the status quo and embrace change with enthusiasm. I always like to see a diversion in the usual road and I can totally connect to the concept of proactively creating change, which is what this post is all about.

    I really liked the way you summed it up: “In short do every small thing a little differently. Take that chance, believe that doubt, listen to that small voice and you’ll be surprised to see yourself feel more alive.” You’ve nailed it, chief. I salute you!

  3. Found it to be a very accurate description of ‘change’ which most definitely is a constant.Nothing remains the same…all things are forever changing and evolving.
    The last paragraph is what i found very interesting where it states that we should ourselves actively seek change and embrace it. I shall surely be trying this out..hopefully will break the monotony of routine.
    Thank you for sharing
    Best regards
    Pharah

  4. Everything is transitory & evolving. We also do not remain what we were In context to our biological quotient. Had it not been so life on earth & the Eco system would have degenerated & decayed. In so far God is concerned, it is not an entity but synonymous with impenetrable Power beyond life & death. Therefore the question of God ageing is not only superfluous but bereft of change.

  5. We kind of resist change in the external world while on a deeper plane – at the cellular level, we are changing ever moment. The Buddha says we are a ‘new’ person every moment!

    I agree with your suggestions shared here. Our attitude to acknowledge the new, observe & enjoy it will really help in welcoming the new. That reminds me …I have to go read an altogether different genre of books this year…I want change … I dig change…yeah!!

    Thanks for sharing this post with me!

  6. Thank you for the post. I love these lines..”What an interesting paradox; There would be no belief in God if there were no change and yet that God himself shall never change”.
    Hadn’t thought of that before. Is change God’s way of reminding us of our innate Dharma? …Food for thought.
    I like how you took an universal concept like change, that which everyone experiences and thinks they understand, but were still able to reveal new angles that are thought provoking!
    Good work!

  7. Super said….Change is inevitable. For the good or bad…..we like ppl the way they r, But the problem is we r changing…..n there is no wrong in it!! Sansaar ki neeti hai Parivartan !!

  8. Your piece reminded me of the proverb:’The more things change, the more they stay the same.’ Life is after all a series of natural and spontaneous changes-or sometimes sought. The question is how well we adapt ourselves to these changes?
    An interesting piece indeed. Enjoyed reading it. I agree 100% with your line: The most interesting way out is to proactively create change. Resist the status quo!

  9. Very interesting, Sanjay. I agree with most of what you’re saying. We must be proactive about change. As for me, I believe in going with the flow of change.

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